Consider the contrast in two of the nursing homes Baker visited - the first a
conventional facility in the Midwest where she found the environment and the
residents' behavior equally disturbing:
I wanted to flee. Everything about the place felt wrong. You exited
the elevator to face an imposing nurse's station. In the hallways, people sat in
wheelchairs with nothing going on to engage them. The atmosphere was stifling, and
particularly distressing as I knew this was a place with a good reputation. I felt I
would go mad if I had to live there. Why should we expect anything different from
residents, whatever their cognitive state?
Compare that with what she found at Arbor Place, a transformed nursing home in
Rockville, Maryland:
As I entered, I heard Latin jazz throbbing. Before me, in the
living room, the household was in full swing. A gentleman in a plaid shirt dipped
into a romantic embrace with a regal woman wearing a full skirt, her hair tucked into
a ballerina's bun. Others held their partners' hands and bobbed to the beat. Some
who were in wheelchairs hand-danced with their partners. When the song ended,
everyone laughed and hugged. It was hard for me to believe that every resident there
had Alzheimer's disease.
Many - perhaps most - nursing home residents are not as far gone as they seem,
Baker notes. Some are simply forced by their infirmities to live at a much slower
pace than other people.
"Skilled and loving caregivers have taught me that the key to being present for
people with diminished capabilities is to slow down and get into their rhythm, rather
than try to force them into ours," Baker writes.
But in conventional nursing homes the pace is often hurried, with little time for
caregivers to visit with residents and establish friendships. Indeed, such
interactions are often discouraged by top management.
Unsettling noises from buzzers and intercoms, lack of privacy and a sea of
strangers rushing about exacerbate the fear and confusion already felt by residents
struggling with dementia. Add this to their difficulty in articulating their needs,
and there is little wonder why some become completely withdrawn or fight their
caregivers.
Their combativeness often is countered with anti-psychotic drugs which may cause
further cognitive and physical decline.
As one doctor told Baker, these drugs don't improve quality of life for residents:
"All it does is sedate the behavior... chloroform does that too!"